Dalmatian Duck | A Celebration of Stories

Dalmatian Duck

A Celebration of Stories

dalmatian duck: a celebration of stories

Mary E. Pappalardo

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Our Second Decade (1947-1957)

Reflections & Recollections: The Life of Mary Edna Charlotte Vecchio Pappalardo

A short while before Dad’s discharge from the army, Josie and Grandpa began to make plans to build another replacement home for themselves, on the remaining parcel of land they still owned on Chestnut Street. With the war almost at an end, building supplies slowly began to become available.

By the early spring of 1946, they had already moved out of the upstairs apartment and were settled in their new home at 22 Chestnut Street. It was a brick split level house, situated on a corner plot, and as usual, perfectly constructed with all the precise details for which Grandpa was noted.

Building and construction and real estate in general were on the upswing. Business began to develop and flourish. The service men returning from the war took advantage of the GI Bill of Rights offered to them by our government, and enrolled in various colleges of their choice, tuition free. This was a wonderful opportunity to earn a college degree and to obtain a well-paying position upon graduation. Things in general were looking good. Everybody was engaged in finding their niche, and feeling optimistic about it.

In addition to Rosemary, both Sal and Jean were now enrolled in school. All three enjoyed making friends at school and with the neighbors’ children. When not in school, they enjoyed the space and surroundings around our home. Traffic was minimal, and the area was still a quiet and ideal place to raise children. The children took great delight in walking to Josie and Grandpa’s new home to visit. Their house was on the same side of the street as ours, about 300 feet away – a small enough distance for them to safely venture alone. Rosemary would take charge of her “little brood”. As usual, she always handled her responsibilities very well.

With the upstairs still vacant after Josie and Grandpa’s move, Dad and I decided to rent it. This would help us financially, as there were so many things we had postponed buying while Dad was in the service. Our finished room downstairs had already been converted into another bedroom at the time Josie and Grandpa had moved in, so we were not lacking any space. We rented the apartment to a very lovely widow lady, Mrs. Sylvia, and her single daughter who went to business each day. They were ideal tenants, and paid their monthly rent of $50 on time, without fail.

In the spring of 1948 I learned I was pregnant again. As usual, we were happy to learn of the good news, and grateful that Dad would be at home to welcome the new addition. On October 12, 1948, Paul Christopher was born. Because he was born on Columbus Day, Rosemary talked Dad and I into giving him a middle name at birth. All five of our other children had only one name given them at birth. Their second name was given at confirmation. Paul was the exception because of Rosemary’s strong influence. I’m glad she made the suggestion; it was very appropriate.

The town of Malverne was growing like all the other towns after the war. As a result, more and more people were moving in, and school enrollment increased steadily. In the Valley Stream school district it became necessary for the children to attend split sessions – morning and afternoon. Our children went in the morning, but like the rest, were subjected to afternoon sessions as well, according to their scheduled assignments by the administration.

In the District 13 elementary school where our children attended, the enrollment was 1,400 in kindergarten through sixth grade. Besides the crowded conditions, Dad and I objected to the split sessions. Morning classes meant getting the kids on the bus very early, and the afternoon sessions brought them home almost at dusk. This was not acceptable to us, since our children had to walk to and from the bus stop. Daylight hours dwindled as winter approached.

All of this led Dad and I to begin to make plans to make a move from Malverne, particularly while the children were young enough to make the necessary adjustments. We were especially interested in California. Our plan was not to sell our home, but to rent it. This would give us a place to return to, should plans go awry.

Meanwhile, I did my homework for three months, getting information on tile work opportunities for Dad, and rental costs for housing. We were very interested in the areas of San Diego, Santa Barbara, and Ventura, all in southern California, and all considered as prime real estate to this day.

I subscribed to the local newspapers in that area. The information from the papers was very encouraging. Prices of homes and rentals were very attractive and affordable. The real estate boom with its inflated prices had not yet hit California. Anybody who had money to invest at this time could find many lucrative opportunities. As for tile work, it was very much in demand in the construction of homes and buildings there. Many homes were designed in Spanish architecture, in which tile was a notable feature both inside and out.

Dad and I lined up a tenant for our house, a nurse who was very interested. We did not go into details of a lease yet; it was still a bit too soon. The obstacle we had yet to face was to convince Grandpa of the wisdom of the move. Months before we had privately informed Josie of our plans, and asked her to tactfully break the news to him. She was very much in favor of our plan, but in her wisdom, she never gave him the news. She was certain that he would vehemently oppose the idea, and would be very upset with the thought of our leaving.

The result was that even Dad could not muster the courage to tell his father of our carefully laid plans. And so, of course, the only one remaining to carry out the difficult task was myself!

At the opportune time, in the presence of Dad, I carefully laid out our plan, and informed Grandpa of our intentions. His face became absolutely livid, as he stood motionless. When he recovered from the shock of the news, he gave us many reasons why, in his judgement, this move would be a disaster. His main objection was that crossing the country would be very difficult for the children to cope with. I think he had thoughts of us traveling in a covered wagon, like in the gold rush of 1848!

Our reasoning and attempts to diminish his concerns fell on deaf ears. As he was getting ready to leave, he gave us an ultimatum that, to this day, we laugh about. He informed us that if we attempted to go ahead with our move, he would immediately see an attorney and get an injunction against us, citing as the reason “cruelty to my grandchildren”! He then left, and Dad and I laughed at the desperation that Grandpa had developed into a serious legal case. We were upset to see him reacting so badly, but were certainly not worried about his legal threat!

Nevertheless, that evening, after much discussion, we decided to cancel our plans to move. We were both very disappointed of course, but I was very concerned that if we acted against Grandpa’s wishes, he might suffer a stroke from the stress and worry, and I did not want to be the one guilty of bringing that on. Once again, one of the rules I learned as a child was brought into play here; namely, always respect your elders, and never contradict them.

Needless to say, Josie felt badly for us; she knew how much we had counted on going through with our plans. But her hands were tied, knowing Grandpa’s ways as she did. He truly was generous and loving in so many ways, but he was also possessive of those whom he loved dearly – and we were among those he dearly loved.

Dad and I and the children, along with Josie and Grandpa, had visited Freddie and Mary in Shawnee, Pennsylvania several times, spending several days each time we were there. We were impressed with the beauty of the Pocono Mountains, and the expanse of green space. The children had a great time running around freely outside with no limits or barriers, and enjoying the Delaware River which ran along Freddie’s property, about 100 feet from his house.

Observing the favorable reactions of our children after spending visits in Shawnee from time to time, Dad and I once again began to consider plans to make the move from Malverne. But this time the destination we had in mind was Shawnee. The distance between Malverne and Shawnee was not too far, and by car it only took 2 ½ to 3 hours depending on traffic.

As we began to have serious thoughts to make this move, we discussed the idea with Josie and Grandpa. Both were very much in favor of the plan, which was very encouraging for us. Dad and I decided to contact his brother Freddie to ask him if he and Mary would be able to rent us the “chicken coop”, as we called the big barn that Freddie had built. It had been emptied of chickens and eggs, and was now converted into two lovely modern apartments, one on each floor. They were happy to hear of our intentions to move, and reserved the lower floor for us, at $80 per month. The upper apartment was rented to the postmaster of Shawnee and his family.

Freddie also assured Dad that a big tile job that had been awarded to him would be coming up. The job was at the new General Hospital (now Pocono Hospital) in East Stroudsburg. Work was scheduled to begin in the spring of 1950, and from all indications, there was a huge amount of tile to be installed. This would provide ample employment for Dad, for a while anyway, as well as for Freddie and his son Al. We planned to make our move to Shawnee sometime in 1950.

Meanwhile, after many years of bachelorhood, my brother Louie finally made plans to get married. My mother was gone now, my father was in a nursing home, and Louie was living alone in our big house in Lakeview. He planned to sell the house, which had been in his name for many years. (He was the one who financed it, and paid for all necessary repairs.) He and his fiancée, Rose, planned to then rent an apartment.

Their marriage took place in July 1949. As for selling the Lakeview home, they ran into a lot of difficulty. All of the prospective buyers seemed to be black, and were unable to get a mortgage from the various banks. But as they say, things sometimes work out for the best, as happened in this case. My brother Johnny had been looking for some time to buy a home.

Johnny was able to negotiate with Louie on the purchase price, and was successful in obtaining a mortgage. For Johnny, Marie and Johnny Mike, it was a wonderful feeling for them to be moving into their very own home, no longer as a tenant but as an owner. As for Louie and the rest of us in the family, we were overjoyed to know that our homestead was still going to be occupied by the Vecchios for a long time to come. It was truly a happy ending and a happy beginning as well.

On October 1, 1949, we were all saddened to learn that my father had died in the nursing home, having succumbed to complications from prostate problems. The last time Dad and I had visited him, he appeared to be acclimated to the routine and environment of the nursing home, and although he was a bit thinner, he had good color in his face. He enjoyed our conversation, but still exhibited the memory lapses he had suffered over the years.

With my father’s passing, it seemed as if another chapter of the Vecchio family had ended. We still latched on to the beautiful memories of the wonderful years that my mother and father provided for each of us. They would always be ours to cherish and to keep as our very own.

After the Christmas holiday of 1949 had passed, we made definite plans to leave Malverne. We were successful in finding a tenant for our house, and we also allowed Mrs. Sylvia to continue renting the upstairs apartment. Our furniture was carefully stored in the basement, eliminating the cost of storage fees. We decided to have our piano moved, along with boxes of necessary linens, clothing, etc., and hired a professional long distance mover.

Dad had purchased the piano for Rosemary, who had started taking lessons from our neighbor, Mrs. Thomson. ????lived with Mr. Thomson’s elderly mother????? Mr. and Mrs. Thomson loved having Rosemary with them, and would sometimes invite her out to lunch as their guest. They always complemented her for her well-polished behavior at the table. Such comments are always nice to hear. It is gratifying to know that parental lectures concerning good behavior are in reality very productive, and not lost in the process.

In February of 1950, we said our good-byes to Josie and Grandpa and all our friends. We packed ourselves into the car, en route to our new residence awaiting us in Shawnee-on-Delaware, as it was and still is officially called. We couldn’t help but feel the quietness of our three children sitting in the back seat.

I’m sure that many thoughts were racing through their little minds as we drove steadily along the highway. No doubt, they were already feeling their removal from the Malverne where they had grown up, and which they knew so well. Leaving their friends behind was not an easy task, nor was being introduced to a new school.

I held Paul, 16 months old at the time, on my lap in the front seat. Seat belts and children’s car seats were unheard of then. Paul was the only one in the car who was free of all doubts and anxieties.

After we were well outside of the city limits, we soon began to see the green countryside as we motored through New Jersey. This gave our children a lift, and their moods improved noticeably as we drove on. Soon we approached the Delaware Water Gap bridge. Of course their eyes lit up to see the beauty of the carved mountainside which the forces of nature had created, and the famous Indian Head, as it appeared to look down on the impressive Delaware River flowing along with steady force.

After passing Neesen’s post office and store in Minisink Hills, and the Empire Box Company, we turned onto River Road. We then passed Roy’s Tavern, the tiny Shawnee post office, Smitty’s general store, Worthington Hall (which also housed the Shawnee Fire Company), Fred Waring’s very posh Shawnee Country Club and golf course as well as his own private home. All of this was situated only three miles from Freddie and Mary’s house and parcels of land.

Still approaching Freddie’s, we passed Eagle Rock Lodge, Burnley’s house, Hialeah Park (a summer home development along the banks of the Delaware), the Davis home (later sold to the Newcombes), the Irvin Walter farm and sawmill, the Harry Kautz farm, and the beautiful old stone home which was purchased and occupied by the Robackers for the summer months. The Robackers were both teachers and lived near White Plains, NY. A stream, which was fed by an underground spring in the mountain above River Road, flowed under a small bridge and emptied itself into the river.

We then made a right turn into Freddie’s long driveway. There stood his beautiful home, which was now finished, complete with heat, electricity and water. Alongside of this impressive home was the “chicken coop” which would be home to us for the next 18 months. Dad started blowing the horn as we neared the house. By that time Freddie and Mary were already outside, to greet us and welcome us to our new state of residence – Pennsylvania.

The children lost no time in getting out of the car, ready to explore their new surroundings and play with Butch, Freddie and Mary’s dog. He was just a mutt, but well conditioned as an outside dog in all kinds of weather. He was a beautiful dog, and particularly friendly and gentle with children, ours being no exception.

After having lunch with Freddie and Mary, we all proceeded to unpack the car. At night we tried our new beds for the first time, immediately feeling the comforts of home. It had certainly been an exciting, full day, and we were already looking forward to the events and changes the future would be bringing us.

The next matter to be taken care of (of the numerous activities yet to be done) was to register our children for school at the Smithfield elementary school on River Road, about four miles away. Dad and I left the children with Mary for the short while we were gone. We entered the building and proceeded down the hall to the office of the principal, Mr. Bartholomew (who was also the band director). He greeted us warmly and before asking us any questions, offered us a piece of his birthday cake, which was in full view in the center of a table in his office.

We politely accepted his offer and were served coffee as well. While serving us, he suggested that we call him Mr. B, as did everyone else. We were very much impressed with the informality and his friendly nature. Our first question to him was, “Mr. B, how many students are registered here?” to which he quickly replied “202”! Of course we were shocked, comparing this minimal number to the 1400 students enrolled in the Valley Stream school our children had attended. And Smithfield’s enrollment included kindergarten through eighth grade, while Valley Stream’s was K through 6 only.

At that moment we informed Mr. B that Smithfield’s enrollment figure would now increase to 205, and accordingly we formally registered Rosemary (age 12), Sal (10), and Jean (8). We gave him all the necessary transfer information. We were assured that the school bus would make the stop at the top of Freddie’s driveway, and were given the times of pickup and return. As we left Mr. B’s office we thanked him for all his help and for his friendly hospitality.

We left the school feeling very encouraged and optimistic, sensing that this change would be a definite improvement for all three of our children. Classes were not crowded, and all the teachers at the school took a very personal interest in each of their students, recognizing those who had unusual talents and skills, and volunteering extra help to those who needed it.

With preparations made for school, our next task was getting to know and making friends with our neighbors and others we began to meet from time to time. Many of them were natives, having been born in the area and hardly ever leaving it.

Construction of the hospital was on schedule and soon Freddie, his son Al, Dad, and their helpers were very busy installing tile as was contracted. This gave Dad an opportunity to meet many of the local people who were also working on the project doing plumbing, electrical, and other jobs. I had the opportunity to meet many of the parents of children who were in the same classes or activities as our children.

Regardless of who we met or where we met them, Dad and I agreed that, generally speaking, they did not show us much acceptance or signs of approval concerning our arrival in the area they considered “theirs”. It is not uncommon for so-called natives to have this attitude toward newcomers whom they feel are invading their small towns and hamlets. But with patience on our part, and our showing no signs of hostility, we slowly began to gain acceptance of the local townsfolk.

Soon Dad was invited to join the Shawnee Volunteer Fire Department, and later became its president for two years. I was a member of the Fire Auxiliary, which was actively engaged in cakewalks, square dances, etc. to raise money for the fire company. Dad was also a member of the Civil Defense, and we were both active in the Smithfield PTA. We wanted to be a part of the school our children attended, to help them in their transition. They were doing very well, making new friends, as each day went by.

When the hospital job was finished, employment for Dad was terminated. Whatever tile work Freddie had was basically done by Freddie and his son Al. At that time the Poconos had not yet developed into the very busy resort area it now is. Many of the boarding house owners were not interested in making tile improvements, or any other kind of improvements for that matter. They continued to offer their guests a very simple package: clean rooms, good meals, and a large porch well-furnished with chairs and rocking chairs on which to sit and chat for relaxation. This was basically a farm community with just a few famous landmarks such as Sky Top Lodge and Buck Hill Falls, where the affluent spent their summers.

Dad and I were concerned about the lack of employment and its effects on our financial stability. Yet we desperately wanted to remain in Pennsylvania. We were pleased to see the children enjoying the countryside as we did.

So we decided to sell our home in Malverne, and were successful in finding a buyer for the price of $15,750 (with $750 going to the real estate agency as commission). We made a profit on the sale, but of course we did not net the entire amount, as the bank still held a balance on our first mortgage. Meanwhile Dad found some employment with Freddie from time to time. New resorts were beginning to be built, and the tile business was slowly improving.

We began to seriously think about building a new home for ourselves, but needed land on which to build. When we told Freddie of our desire to buy land, he offered to sell us a 16-acre tract of his property, a small part of the large parcel he had originally purchased. We agreed on a price of $1,000, which was reasonable. However, a good deal of the land, which was located across the road from Freddie and Mary, was mountainous. We were able to select a sizeable portion that was fairly level, on which to situate our home.

In the early part of 1951 we began construction of the house, according to specifications drawn by Dad. It was a 51-foot ranch home with three bedrooms, a large living room with fireplace, two tiled bathrooms, and a very large tiled kitchen. (I was always in love with large kitchens, mainly because I grew up in them.) Off the kitchen was a beautiful outside porch that was later screened and enclosed.

The house was constructed entirely of cement blocks on the outer walls, and cinder blocks on the inside partitions. The hip roof, red in color, gave the house beautiful lines. The sides were covered in gray wood shingles, and the front of the house was faced with stone taken from the side of the mountain and painstakingly installed, one by one, by Grandpa. He was our expert, and a truly gifted one at that. In a short while he constructed many beautiful stone creations on our property: a lighthouse, two outdoor fireplaces, several stone-and-tile tables, birdbaths, and a fountain. Everyone who saw his work was impressed.

In later years we would attach a two-car garage next to the kitchen. The grounds were surrounded with lots of white dogwood, oak and cedar trees. But our pride and joy was a very old apple tree that faced our front porch, bearing small green fruit. The apples were great for applesauce, but the rustic country scene it provided was priceless to us. You can imagine our sadness when, years later, it died. We had to have it cut down and removed. It almost seemed like we had lost a member of the family. It was sorely missed.

We found it necessary to apply for a mortgage in order to complete our house. Getting a mortgage from the local banks was no easy task, as they catered mostly to the resort owners. After being turned down by two banks, we obtained a mortgage from the Equitable Life Assurance Society to finish the construction.

By August 1951 we had moved into our new home, using the furniture that had been stored in the basement of our former home in Malverne. What a great feeling it was to enjoy home ownership in the country! Of course there were still lots of things we needed, including carpet for the living room and the installation of built-in furniture that Dad had designed for all three bedrooms and the hall. But we managed to postpone doing all of this until such time when we were financially able.

Some years later, my brother Frank was experiencing serious marital problems with his wife Helen. He asked Dad and me if he could come and live with us. As I have said, Frank and Dad always had a close relationship. I think part of it had to do with the very large role Frank had played in engineering the romance between Dad and me!

Without hesitation we responded in the affirmative, and Frank moved in. He was warmly welcomed and was now a member of our family. He was the same lovable Frank we always knew – full of good humor and so easy to get along with. The children loved him, and there was a special rapport between him and Paul. All of this helped Frank to forget his problems.

Frank was desperately in need of a job, and Dad was able to find him one with Tucker Chevrolet in Stroudsburg, as a mechanic Henry Tucker, the owner, whom Dad knew very well, was looking for a qualified mechanic. He gladly hired Frank and learned right away that he had a wide knowledge of automobile mechanics. Frank was required to supply his own tools, which he did not have, so we provided them for him. In addition he had no car or other means of transportation, so I drove him to and from work each day, a 16-mile round trip. We were happy to help him in any way we could. Dinners were prepared and served on time, and Frank enjoyed the relaxation afterward, sitting in the living room with the family. He truly felt very much at home, and we were happy to have made it possible.

The employment that Freddie was able to offer Dad was minimal, and seemed to diminish even more as time passed. This caused Dad a great deal of worry, as the expenses of maintaining our home, car and family were quite high. Dad’s other brothers, who worked independently, had a great deal of tile installations that were contracted for and yet to be done. Each of them offered Dad a job and agreed to pay him well, if he would consider going to Long Island where the work was located.

Dad and I discussed the matter at great length. After much thought, we agreed that Dad should accept their offer, stay at my brother Johnny’s house (he and Marie were only too happy to help), and from there go to the various tile jobs wherever they might be located. He began his new mission of employment and commuted back and forth to Long Island faithfully for two years.

It was a big sacrifice for both of us. He would leave early each Monday at 4 AM and return on Friday or Saturday evening, depending on how busy the work assignments were. Of course he missed being home with all of us, but he realized his responsibilities for our support came first. As for the children and me, we too missed having him at home. Nevertheless, I did not shirk from taking on the role of a Mom as well as a Dad, just as I had done before when Dad was in the service.

I encouraged the children to continue with their various activities at school and with friends, as they had been doing. Accordingly, as the need arose, I chauffeured them to their designated destinations, day or night, regardless of the distance involved. Fortunately God was watching over me, as I never experienced a flat tire along the various routes, which sometimes included lonely stretches in the middle of nowhere.

Shortly after we moved to Pennsylvania, Josie and Grandpa sold their home on Chestnut Street in Malverne and built another beautiful home on Willow Street in West Hempstead. After a short stay there, we were not the least bit surprised to learn that they wanted to sell that house as well. It was sold more quickly than they expected. Listening to them, it was obvious that they were missing the closeness we had enjoyed living next to each other as we once did, but most of all, I think they missed our children – their grandchildren.

They strongly indicated that they would like to locate near us, whereupon Dad and I offered to give them a parcel of our land next to our house. They gladly accepted. We proceeded to arrange with our lawyer to prepare the necessary deed of conveyance. Very soon, Josie and Grandpa’s house was built, with help from Dad and his brothers. It was a very nice floor plan, consisting of five rooms, a bath and a porch on the upper level, and a garage and laundry room, with full size windows and plenty of light, on the ground level. It was lovely, modest in size, and fairly easy to maintain. But what Josie and Grandpa liked best about the whole arrangement was that they were next door to us once again, and close to their grandchildren. We too were as happy as they were.

When I informed Dad, on one of his weekend visits from Long Island, that I was pregnant, his response reflected much happiness as always, but he was worried. We both questioned whether the commute to Long Island should continue with a new baby on the way. After much discussion we agreed that he would continue to work in Long Island for just a few months longer, and would be back home permanently several months before the baby was due in January. This pleased all of us a great deal. In the meantime, the fact that Josie and Grandpa were near us once again gave Dad much relief from worry, knowing that I was not alone should any emergency arise while he was away.

But our big concern was how Dad would find employment in the Stroudsburg area after he returned. After much prodding from his brothers and with much thought and consideration, Dad made the decision to go into the tile business independently, and to operate from our home. Of course Freddie was not too happy with this idea, but his other brothers encouraged him to ignore Freddie’s objections. Their anonymous advice was, “You have a wife and four children and another one on the way to support. What better way is there to do so than by operating your own business as we’ve been doing? So, just do it. No apologies are necessary.” Josie and Grandpa agreed.

With all this support and encouragement, as well as a used truck that Dad’s brother Frank bought for him to carry tile and materials, Dad officially began his own tile business. We were all excited. In a short time, by word of mouth, tile jobs began to come through. Customers were very satisfied and highly recommended Dad to others who wanted tile installed.

This was most encouraging to both of us. To help in some way, I took on the clerical and bookkeeping work, to eliminate the cost of paying somebody to do it. I phoned in tile orders, took messages, typed letters, estimates and contracts, and filed all records to keep things in order. All in all, Dad and I were truly partners in more ways than one. We could see we were making progress, our business was growing, and we were feeling good!

On January 21, 1954 Peter was born in the middle of a very cold winter. The day before he arrived, we had a very heavy snowfall, but were fortunate to have our neighbor, Herb Theune, plow our long driveway. He realized we were very anxious about having a clear driveway at all times in order to quickly get to the hospital in time for the baby’s arrival. He refused payment from us, and told us that his services were a gift to the new baby. Good neighbors are priceless, and we always appreciated the good neighbors we were fortunate to have in Shawnee.

The children enjoyed their new baby brother, as did we all. Of course Josie and Grandpa doted on our new addition, as grandparents usually do. Meanwhile, our house was always filled with a wide variety of friends and family who were eager to visit us at our home “in the country” and to see our new baby. The Pappalardos and the Vecchios always enjoyed their visits with us, sometimes for weeks at a time, including our wonderful get-togethers for the Thanksgiving holiday. They were impressed with the privacy, the quiet and the green beauty of our valley. It was the perfect place for them to get away from the noise and congestion of the city. They were always welcomed when they came to see us; we were always happy to have them.

Dad began to get more and more work now, doing the big resorts such as Mount Airy Lodge, Paradise Stream Resort Hotel, Penn Hills Lodge, and many others. He often took our son Sal with him on the job on Saturdays or during vacation time. He wanted to interest him in learning the art of setting tile, as Dad had learned it from his father. Sal was very receptive, and learned the tricks of the trade over the years. It was a wonderful father-son experience for both of them. Fortunately, Sal learned the trade well enough to use it as a second income over the years to supplement his teaching salary.

Dad was invited, and joined the Monroe County Master Builders, an association of well-known builders and subcontractors. This was a wonderful opportunity to expand his business contacts, and led to many lucrative tile jobs. Many times Dad would get extra help from his nephews and brothers from Long Island, in order to have all jobs completed on time. He compensated them well, just as they had done for him years before when he worked for them.

Of course I made sure that there was good food waiting for them upon their return from the job to our house, for as long as they stayed. They thoroughly enjoyed the job location “in the country”, and Dad likewise was pleased that the work was completed with the Pappalardo touch of quality, and on time as well. It is no wonder that Dad’s reputation among his business associates and customers was well known, and that he earned a high degree of respect. Hearing the many complements about his work was always wonderful, and made us feel especially proud.

By 1956 Rosemary was ready to graduate from high school. She applied and was accepted to Douglas College in New Jersey. It was around this time that Grandpa began to show signs of failing health – weight loss, poor appetite, etc. We had him see a doctor who prescribed medication, a change of diet, and plenty of rest. Despite the doctor’s orders, he refused to slow down and continued to work outdoors, doing all the things he enjoyed. Meanwhile, we helplessly watched him going down hill as each day passed.

The year 1957 seemed a combination of tragedy and joy. To begin with, Rosemary quit Douglas after her first semester. She was already dating Frank Piazza, and they were seriously planning marriage. For us, it was a blow to see her giving up school and the wonderful opportunities that a college degree would have afforded her. But we began to adjust ourselves to the reality that our firstborn would be leaving us in the foreseeable future to start a life of her own.

In May, Grandpa had to undergo emergency surgery for cancer, which was diagnosed as terminal. He was discharged and sent home to convalesce. After seeing his wan, tired face we knew it was just a matter of time.

Despite Grandpa’s grave illness, Rosemary and Frank’s wedding took place in July. Because of the gravity of Grandpa’s condition, we had arranged a small reception for the immediate families only. It was held at the Rhodes’ Inn on Route 611 in Stroudsburg. Under the circumstances it was the best we could offer to do. Before leaving for their honeymoon, Rosemary and Frank went to visit Grandpa and Josie at home, as they had been unable to attend the wedding. Josie and Grandpa had provided Rosemary with her wedding dress, and she wanted them to see her in it. She looked beautiful.

On Labor Day, Grandpa died peacefully at home. He was almost 80 years old, but his energy and interest in so many things defied his age. It was a blow to all of us, especially Josie. But fortunately, she would never be left alone, as we were next door and ready to answer her every need. She knew she could count on us.

On October 22, 1957 we were blessed with another son, Frank. His birth helped to bring joy to all of us, after the loss of Grandpa. It helped to cheer Josie in so many ways; her interest in the new baby helped remove her loneliness. Dad’s brother Frank and Josie were both honored when we asked them to be Frank’s godparents. Of course Josie was especially pleased, as now she had a godson to think about. She felt that she was needed, which was wonderful for everyone concerned. Frank was blessed with wonderful godparents who showered him with TLC all the way.

To finish 1957 on a high note, Denis Ann Piazza was born in November, making Dad and I grandparents for the first time, and making aunt and uncles of our children, including Baby Frank! God called Grandpa to his heavenly home, but sent us two precious lives in replacement. How lucky we were. We were indeed grateful for our blessings.

Mary E. Pappalardo (1917-2021)

Our Third Decade (1957-1967)

Reflections & Recollections: The Life of Mary Edna Charlotte Vecchio Pappalardo

With Dad’s 50th birthday approaching, I decided he deserved a really big surprise party, in recognition of his love and devotion to us as husband and father. I arranged a lovely dinner at the “Top O’ the Fox” on Foxtown Hill in Stroudsburg, and invited all the Pappalardos and the Vecchios, plus some of our close friends. There were about 45 of us altogether, and it was indeed a surprise to Dad. He was very touched by it, and could hardly eat a thing because if his excitement.

He received many beautiful gifts, including a rocking chair from our children. He appreciated their loving thoughts, but was a bit apprehensive as to the meanings that a rocking chair might imply. With five children still at home to support, he definitely would not have the financial means to sit in a rocking chair. Nevertheless, the chair, now 37 years old, is still in existence. It has since been given to our son Sal, since he bears his father’s name. Hopefully, it will be passed down in time to our grandson Sal, as it has much sentimental meaning.

Meanwhile our four older children at home were busy with school and all its activities. The only one at home was Frank, still a baby. Dad continued to do well with his tile jobs, and Josie was adjusting quite well to her new life without Grandpa. We insisted, however, that she share supper with us every night. She enjoyed the camaraderie as well as not having to cook. She was a good cook, but never really enjoyed it that much. Grandpa had always cooked because he liked doing it, although of course Josie had to be on hand to hand him the pots or whatever he needed during the preparation.

Oftentimes, the children would take turns and spend an overnight with Josie, but it had to be only one of them at a time. She felt that she could supervise better when there was only one to look after. The endless vitality and energy coming from growing boys had to be rationed in small doses as far as she was concerned! All in all it was enjoyable for her and for the children.

By 1959 our son Sal had graduated from high school and was accepted at Villanova, majoring in engineering. Villanova was ranked quite high academically, and had a tuition to match. But all parents try their best to help their children fulfill their dreams and aspirations. After a year at Villanova, Sal was disappointed to learn that his grades were not acceptable for him to continue there in that field of study. He came home that summer feeling very discouraged.

Meanwhile Freddie had a big tile job in New Jersey and asked our son to help him. Sal was elated with the money that Freddie paid him, as it was higher than the minimum wage. Of course Freddie got a good day’s work from Sal as well.
Despite the jingle of the money in Sal’s pocket, Dad strongly advised him to attend the local college, East Stroudsburg State College (now East Stroudsburg University). Being a state college, the tuition and costs were much lower than the private colleges. Sal was a bit reluctant at first, but realized it was worth trying. He seemed to be interested in teaching, and at that time, male teachers were beginning to be in demand.

Dad’s doctor, Dr. Shafer, was president of the Board of Trustees at ESU, as well as its college physician. With Dr. Shafer’s influence, Sal was accepted even though his application was not submitted until late August (normally too late). Upon Dr. Shafer’s advice, Sal stopped working for Freddie in order to have time to prepare and pass the entrance exam required by the college. Needless to say, this did not go over too well with Freddie, but Dad insisted that it had to be this way; Sal’s schooling took priority.

And so began Sal’s four successful years at ESU, which led to the beginning of his teaching career. He is still teaching today, fourth grade at the Morey Elementary School in Stroudsburg. It is heartwarming to hear the accolades and compliments from the parents of the children he has taught these many years. He has touched the lives of his fourth graders in many positive ways. He is still respected and admired by his students, their parents, and his fellow teachers with whom he has worked for over thirty years. This makes me ever so proud.

In 1960 Dad and I suggested that Josie should get away for awhile and take a trip to Italy to visit her friends and cousins who lived in the vicinity of Catania, Sicily. Grandpa had been gone for three years, and we thought the change would do her some good. She was receptive to the idea, but did not want to make the trip alone. She was able to interest her longtime friend, Mrs. Puglisi, to accompany her. Mrs. Puglisi had relatives in Italy as well. They agreed on a date and made reservations to go back and forth by ship in August 1962, via the Italian Line. It turned out to be an enjoyable trip for both of them. Mrs. Puglisi not only enjoyed the trip, but also met a man in Italy who proposed to marry her. She told him that she would have to get approval from her married daughter and family before making a decision. He agreed to her wishes and accompanied her and Josie back to the US. Two months later, after her family approved of the match, Mrs. Puglisi and her new found fiancée became husband and wife. They lived in the Bronx for many years until his death.

In the latter part of 1960 my brother Frank, who was still living with us, suffered a heart attack. Until this point in time he had been doing well at work. I continued to chauffeur him to and from work, as he was still without a car. As far as we could observe, he did not seem to be having any problems physically or otherwise. But when he awoke on this particular morning, he complained of chest pain and nausea. Dad delayed going to work and took Frank to Dr. Shafer. After a preliminary exam and an EKG, Dad took him to the hospital in East Stroudsburg, where he remained for two weeks. We notified Henry Tucker and informed him that Frank would not be able to work for a while.

Upon Frank’s discharge, Dr. Shafer gave him strict orders to remain at home resting for six weeks. After that he would be allowed to return to work on a part time basis, until such time as he was fully recovered. Frank apparently was not receptive to the idea of part time employment. After the six weeks of rest he resumed work and was back to his forty hours per week schedule.

Without any warning he began to drink heavily, and on the job, of all places. Of course this as not acceptable to Henry Tucker’s son, who was by now in charge of his father’s garage. Frank ignored repeated warnings and continued his excessive drinking. It was no surprise when we learned from Frank that he had been fired. Dad and I were very disappointed. After all, he was doing the work for which he was the most qualified, and doing it very well. It seemed that he had ignored everything and chosen to throw a good opportunity out the door. We had done all we could to help him, but we realized that he had to be the one to discipline himself.

He continued to remain home with us, now unemployed. He applied to the unemployment office in Stroudsburg, trying to collect weekly checks, without success. I imagine the conditions under which he was fired had something to do with their decision. We kept him in cigarettes and gave him a little pocket money. For his part, he accepted his change of idleness. Meanwhile, he kept trying weekly to get a different decision at the unemployment office.

By 1962 Dad and I were thinking of our 25th wedding anniversary, which was soon approaching. As we looked back we felt happy and proud of all the things we had accomplished together, despite our occasional setbacks. But we both agreed that our greatest gift of joy came from God, blessing us with six beautiful children. Over the years they have generously and unselfishly given us many material gifts. But best of all, they have given us those things which no price could match, namely their love and respect, and the joy of their laughter.

After much serious thought, Dad and I agreed we would treat ourselves to a Mediterranean tour of Italy as an anniversary gift to ourselves.

Of course we had to make plans for the care of our children during the eight weeks we would be away, and we were still concerned about my brother Frank as well. Jean had already graduated from high school and was now attending ESU, as was her brother Sal. Both would have the use of our car to get back and forth between school and home. They were mature enough to handle things for themselves at home. There was a freezer full of food, and many prepared foods, ready to serve. With the car, they could get to the store for daily necessities.

We arranged for Peter and Paul to stay at the home of our friendly milkman Ray and his wife Ellen. Ray was almost a part of our family. His milk deliveries three times a week always ended with him sitting down with us over coffee, chatting with Dad and me and the children as they were getting ready for school. During his coffee break, he never failed to telephone his wife to make sure she was awake to go to work at her job at Newberry’s department store. She still works there today. Ray is no longer a milkman, but works part time delivering flowers for a local florist.

We paid Ray and Ellen, of course, for the care of the boys. They were attending Saint Matthew’s parochial school, and Ellen made sure that they wore their clean white shirts with ties and their blue pants, which was the required uniform. Ray and Ellen did a fine job, and the boys were happy there.

As for our youngest, Frank, we arranged to have him stay with Stella and Kenny Stettler, our neighbors in Shawnee. We paid them as we did Ray and Ellen. Stella and Kenny had two young daughters, Kathy and Audrey, who smothered Frank with love and attention. They considered him their baby brother. Kenny and Stella were very attentive and provided Frank with excellent care. Having our children in good hands relieved Dad and me of all worry and anxiety while away.

With the details for the care of our children arranged, we proceeded to finalize our plans. The cruise was arranged through Wyckoff’s travel bureau. Besides seeing much of Italy, we would make stops in Lisbon, Portugal and Patras, Greece. We would be sailing on ships of the Italian Line, going on the Vulcania and returning on the Saturnia. We would sail in January 1962.

We asked Josie if she would be interested in going along with us. We suggested that she invite two of her close friends, Claire and Evelyn from Haverhill, Massachusetts. They were always ready to go on a trip. The three ladies were very much in favor of the whole idea and decided to come.

The big day arrived. We were departing from New York harbor. Needless to say, all of our children except our youngest, Frank were there to see us off. Also on hand were my brother Frank, my brother Julie and Carrie, my brother Johnny and Marie, Martha Schiele (Grandpa’s faithful bookkeeper at Nation Tile and Marble), and Dad’s brothers Frank and Joe. As the band played and confetti was thrown in all directions, our ship moved slowly out of the harbor. I can vividly remember seeing the faces of our loved ones moving farther and farther away from us. Of course Dad and I felt sad for the temporary separation, but our sadness was surpassed by the excitement of all that was to come for our enjoyment.

We had extended the five weeks of our planned tour with as additional three weeks in Sicily, so that Dad and I and Josie could visit with Josie’s cousins in Messina. The extra cost was minimal, as we stayed at the homes of Josie’s relatives, and they fed us typical large Italian meals. Of course we contributed whenever they allowed us to do so. All in all it was a wonderful visit for all of us, and most enjoyable. During these three weeks, Claire and Evelyn went on tours by themselves. The five of us then met in Palermo, where the Saturnia was waiting for us for our return home.

Dad had suffered a serious case of hepatitis aboard the ship as we approached Venice, our first port of call. He actually collapsed in bed when we arrived at the hotel. He had suffered bouts of nausea and cramps on the voyage from New York, and after two days of this I convinced him to see the ship’s doctor. This was a big mistake. The doctor’s diagnosis was a flare-up of ulcers (which Dad had a history of). Accordingly, he prescribed a diet of milk, eggs and cheese, and no meats or spicy food. This diet is poison to a body suffering from hepatitis. No wonder Dad collapsed when we reached Venice. I immediately summoned the doctor on call at the hotel. He was in our room within minutes, took one look at Dad, and immediately made a correct diagnosis of hepatitis. He spoke fluent English, and reassured us both that with medication, rest, and lots of clear broth and fruit, Dad would soon recover. Of course he emphasized the need to stay away from dairy products.

Before this, I was seriously thinking of flying back with Dad, to get him home quickly. But upon the doctor’s visit and expert diagnosis, I was relieved and confident that Dad would be well again. Fortunately, our stay in Venice was for three days, which gave Dad ample time to rest and recover.

The rest of our trip went well, and everything we saw was so impressive and hard to describe. We were impressed with Venice, Rome, the Vatican, Florence, Naples, the Amalfi Drive, the Isle of Capri, and oh so many other places. All that we saw and did was worthwhile and so enjoyable. The trip gave us many beautiful, never to be forgotten memories, including the delicious Italian cappuccino to which I was introduced and have loved ever since.

When we returned home, the children were excited and happy to see us. We too were happy to be reunited after an eight week separation.

We learned of many development that had taken place while we were away. For one thing, my brother Frank, who was still living in our home, was showing sever signs of discouragement and depression. He was still without a job and without money. With regret he decided to return to Long Island. His objective was to get unemployment checks, this time through the unemployment office in Hempstead. We were saddened by this decision, particularly the children. They loved Uncle Frank, as we all did.

Frank arranged to live with my brother Johnny and Marie, for a while anyway. After going to the unemployment office and filling out the necessary paperwork, he was successful in getting the full amount of benefits, which had accumulated retroactively! It amounted to a sizable sum. But unfortunately he soon fell into the same trap of excessive drinking, which caused Johnny and Marie and all of us much worry and concern.

Our daughter Rosemary’s marriage was not going very well, burdened now with three children, ages 5, 4 and 2. We had never really approved of her plans to marry, but this was her decision and her life. We as parents had to look on, hoping for the best.

We also learned that our son Sal was planning to marry Joanne Murphy in August of the same year, 1962. Sal still had one more year of college to complete before graduation, and that caused us much concern. We were very happy for them, but couldn’t help wondering whether Sal would be able to afford school and support a marriage at the same time. Joanne already had a job as a bank teller. She planned to continue working to help with expenses. Fortunately their plans turned out well despite their hardships. Sal not only graduated from ESU with a BS in elementary education, but they also became parents of their first child, Gina Mary. In addition, Sal obtained his first teaching position in Matamoras, about 35 miles from Stroudsburg. It was a good beginning, and we were happy for the three of them.

From the time I was in high school, my ambition in life was to become a teacher or (second choice) a nurse. Since marriage for me began at age 20 and continued immediately with the responsibilities of a large family, going to college was out of reach. However, Dad and I often talked about the possibilities for me to pursue a college degree some day. With two of our children married and our youngest already in first grade, I applied for admission to ESU. Despite my 30 year absence from school, and with only a commercial high school diploma, I passed the necessary tests and was admitted.

Josie, who was 73 at the time, also applied and joined me in ny first class, French I. She had always been interested in learning French, and with her background of Italian, she did very well in mastering it. She took the course on a pass-fail basis, as she was not interested in obtaining a degree. She passed with flying colors.

After the semester was over, she went to Florida, as she had always done to escape the ravages of winter. While she was gone, her school grades came in the mail, which indicated PASS. I immediately mailed her report card to her in Florida, and attached a blue ribbon to it. This tickled her, of course, and made her feel proud of her accomplishment. We were all proud of her positive attitude and determination.

Needless to say, Josie and I were the oldest students in the class, and the professor seemed to enjoy our participation despite the age difference. Professor Hope spoke Italian fluently as well as French and English. He and Josie would often carry on lengthy conversations in Italian, while the other students looked on and listened, wondering if they were in the right class! The professor lived in France and was here for one year on an exchange program. Being alone here with few friends, I invited him to our house twice for a good Italian dinner. I invited others in the foreign language department, plus a few other friends. We had a great time together, and Professor Hope was most appreciative. In French, he said some very nice things concerning our graciousness and hospitality. I achieved an A in the course, but I don’t really know whether it was the home cooking, or if I really did know my French!

After my introduction to just the one course, I then registered for three courses at a time each semester. Since our family was my first priority, I scheduled classes between 10 AM and 2 PM. This allowed me time to chauffeur our boys to the bus stop at Worthington Hall in Shawnee, where the parochial school bus picked them up each day. I then would be there to meet them when they were dropped off at 3:15.

According to my plan, it would take me eight years to achieve my degree, but despite the length of time, Dad and I decided it would be suitable for all concerned. I still managed to continue doing the necessary chauffeuring, shopping, cooking, cleaning and laundry, as well as being available to whoever came to stay and visit with us, regardless of when they came. In the midst of all this, of course, I had my assigned homework and reading to do, as well as the clerical duties for Dad as those demands came up. But all of this goes to prove a point – that one can achieve anything he so desires, but he must work hard, persevere, think positively, and above all use the gifts of mind and body which God has given to each and every one of us. Apparently this advice worked for me; by the year 1971 my goal of obtaining a college degree had been achieved.

Just two months prior to her 21st birthday (February 19, 1964) our daughter Jean informed us that she would be quitting ESU. She had already attended the college for a year and a half. Of course this was a disappointment to us, just as it had been when we received the same announcement from Rosemary. We tried to convince her that she was making a mistake, but we could also see that her mind was already made up.

And so she left us, with high hopes and aspirations. After many hugs on her way out, we assured her that our door would always be open, should her plans change in any way. As parents we felt the loss of her leaving us, but we were still hoping for the best for her. Jean kept in touch with us after her arrival in Florida, but as things turned out she did not remain there very long. Eventually she met and became involved with John Giuffre, who lived in Rochester, New York with his mother and sister. He had a married sister as well. Apparently Jean and John were attracted to each other, and a serious relationship soon began.

Some time later we were notified by letter that John Giuffre Jr. was born in February 1965, and that Jean and John were getting married in California. Needless to say, this came as a shock to Dad and me. We felt saddened that we could not be there to be a part of the wedding, but despite our disappointment we desperately hoped that the marriage would work out. But as time passed the marriage began to unravel at the seams (just as Rosemary’s was). It was just a matter of time.

Sometime later, at his mothers invitation, John Sr. returned to Rochester with Jean and John Jr. His mother Angie thought she could help by having the three of them with her. The arrangement did not work very well, and so by agreement, John Sr. remained with his mother and Jean came to our house, bringing John Jr. with her. In essence, we lost one when Jean left us, but we gained two when Jean returned with our grandson. Of course Dad and were relieved that Jean and John could enjoy the comforts of home with us, and despite Jean’s marital problems, we were glad to have her back home, safe and sound. Josie was just as relieved as we were.

Meanwhile Sal and Joanne’s family continued to increase. By good fortune, Sal found a teaching job at the Morey School in Stroudsburg. They moved from Matamoras to Stroud Township. We were happy that they were near to us, and to Joanne’s parents. By 1967 there were three little ones Gina, Sal and Susan in their family.

As for Rosemary and Frank, they now had five children: Denis Ann, Jean, Mary, Sal and Danielle. As grandparents we were already getting used to having little ones roaming around our house when they visited. Our Easter Egg hunt became an annual event, and the grandchildren enjoyed hunting in every nook and cranny outside. We marked eggs in ink with amounts of 5, 10 and 25 cents. It was fun to watch them gathering the eggs, and especially to hear the squeals of excitement when one was lucky enough to find a highly sought 25 cent egg. Dad (Grandpa) was the official cashier, as he sat curled in his favorite chair in the living room. One by one, and with great delight, he gave them the money they anxiously waited in line to get, and which they so justly deserved. Everybody was happy, especially Grandma and Grandpa.

More and more, as time passed, there were rumors that part of the Shawnee Valley would be inundated by water for 37 miles upstream to Port Jervis, New York, by the Tocks Island Dam. The main purpose of the dam was flood control. We had lived through the terrible flood of August 1955, and remembered the sharp rise of the Delaware River and the swollen creeks in the area. Many lives were lost, including young children at a church camp, and buildings were destroyed or severely damaged. Bridges and roads were washed out, electric and telephone lines were down. Our house had just a tiny bit of water in the basement, but the Shawnee Country Club and grounds were partially submerged. One mile from our house, towards Pardees Beach, the water was six feet above the River Road. It was a very long time before things returned to normal. Dad was very busy with the Civilian Defense and the Shawnee Fire Department. The women, including myself, cooked and served food to the firemen and anyone else who needed hot food and nourishment. It was wonderful to see all the townspeople working together.

As rumors of the impending dam construction circulated, land in our area and nearby vicinities began to increase in value.

Martha Schiele, Grandpa’s former bookkeeper, developed a very close relationship with Josie, Grandpa and all of us, ever since her days at the office, working for Grandpa. She worked for him for many years, until the business ceased to exist, due to the war. In her free time she often came to Shawnee for weekend visits, and sometimes longer ones. Our children called her Aunt Martha, and she loved them dearly. She was especially fond of Dad, and had a great deal of confidence in him.

On one of her visits she asked Dad to keep his eyes open for some real estate which, in his opinion, would be a good investment for her. We found a very desirable piece of property on Route 447 in East Stroudsburg. She was pleased with the location and the value. Later, with Martha’s approval and under Dad’s supervision, the land was developed as a trailer park. According to environmental standards, only 15 trailers were allowed to be installed, leaving a good portion of the land untouched and unused. Eventually, after settlement with the government for the sale of her house, Josie would have it moved from Shawnee and relocated on a part of this vacant land. And we would be occupying a new trailer in the park.

But that was still ahead and, for the present, unknown to us. At this point in time we were still enjoying our home, our family, and the beautiful valley in which we lived.

Mary E. Pappalardo (1917-2021)

Our Fourth Decade (1967-1977)

Reflections & Recollections: The Life of Mary Edna Charlotte Vecchio Pappalardo

As time passed, it was evident that Dad’s health was slowly failing. His work was far too strenuous for his damaged heart, but with the needs of his family in mind, he felt he could not stop working. Dr. Shafer often suggested to Dad that he give up tile work entirely. His quote was, “If you don’t stop working now, you’ll drop dead holding a box of tile in your hands.” But these words of advice fell on deaf ears. Work went on as usual.

Meanwhile, Paul was getting ready to graduate from high school, and was not quite sure yet what he wanted to do. In school he had enjoyed wrestling, and excelled in drawing and painting. With the encouragement of Dad and me and his close friends, he entered an oil painting in the local art competition. He won second prize! This was the beginning of what we considered a whole new and exciting field for him. He definitely had the talent to pursue it further.

After graduation, he enlisted in the navy during the Vietnam conflict. While in the navy, Paul was never inclined to write, so we were informed on his activities and whereabouts only when he would come home on leave. We learned that his ship was stationed in the waters of South America. I’m sure that he gained a lot from his experiences on board ship, and from the men with whom he served.

He did not serve for very long, and on his discharge began to make plans to attend ESU. He did not start immediately, but eventually was admitted there. Before starting classes at the college, he participated in the paraprofessional program there, working with Head Start children. He loved working with the kids, and they loved him and his gentle manner. He eventually completed three years of college, and for some reason never returned to finish his senior year.

Jean and John Jr. were doing very nicely staying with us, and still communicating by letter with John Sr., who was still in Rochester with his mother. After some time, Jean and John agreed to get together once more. Jean found a small apartment for the three of them in Delaware Water Gap. They hoped that this new beginning would improve their marriage. Although Dad would have preferred for Jean and our grandson to continue stating with us, we realized that it was worth a try for them to start back on their own again. Things went fairly well, and we were fortunate to see them quite often, since Delaware Water Gap was very close to us.

Meanwhile Rosemary’s situation did not improve much. She continued to experience threats of eviction, with little money to pay bills or buy food. Dad and I continued to help both of our daughters in their times of crisis, doing whatever we could for them and our grandchildren as the need arose.

In spite of all these concerns and anxieties, I was finally successful in becoming a full-fledged senior at ESU, which meant I was now ready to begin my student teaching. Since I had already been enrolled in the paraprofessional program there, I was required to teach for an entire year, not just the usual semester. My assignment was fourth grade in the lab school on campus. It was an exciting experience for me to be working with the children in the classroom, and I gained so much by doing so.

I had just barely begun my assignment when suddenly, on my birthday, September 19,1970, Dad suffered a heart attack which was further aggravated by emphysema. I immediately telephoned Dr. Shafer, who directed me to get Dad to the hospital emergency room right away. I phoned Sal and Joanne and asked them to come and take Dad to the hospital. Ironically, they were just getting ready to come to our house with a special birthday cake for me! God must have sent them a message. They must have flown, as it seemed they were with us in half the time it would ordinarily take to travel the ten miles. The birthday celebration had to be postponed, of course.

Sal and I brought Dad to the emergency room in our car, and Joanne returned home with the children in their car. This marked the first of nine heart attacks that Dad would eventually suffer over the next five years.

We were all in shock, though not surprised, at what had just happened. There was no doubt that Dad had aggravated his poor health over the years with his hard work and his excessive smoking. The lime dust that he inhaled daily on tile jobs did not contribute to healthy lungs, either. We anxiously waited while the doctor and staff of the coronary care unit worked him on. After a while we were told that he would remain in intensive care for a time, then to the recovery room where he would continue to be monitored, and finally to a private room. While in intensive care, he could have visits only by family, three times a day, with a ten-minute time limit.

We had requested a private room for Dad. He was always opposed to sharing a room with another sick person, as he could not tolerate hearing moans and groans next to his bedside. Our health insurance policy covered semi-private accommodations only, but we wanted him to enjoy the comfort and privacy he justly deserved, and we were more than willing to pay the difference in price. The private quarters worked out well for us, since we were not restricted as to visiting hours. The children and I could go in and out of his room whenever and as often as we wished. Our visits were a big boost to Dad, and he looked forward to our coming each day and night.

With the wonderful cooperation and understanding of my co-op teacher, Dave Cliff, I was allowed to spend my entire lunch hour, plus extra time if necessary, with Dad at the hospital. Each day, I would order lunch for myself from the cafeteria downstairs. We dined together privately, not by candlelight in a secluded romantic spot, but together nonetheless. The pleasure of our being together was written all over his face. It was heartwarming and encouraging to me. Needless to say, the path to his bed was well marked by all our children, from Rosemary down to our youngest.

The situation concerning the condemnation of our house and land for the Tocks Island Dam was devastating. Early on, the government had hired the Doral Construction Company to blast and test part of the land to be used for the dam. The objective was to determine the geological makeup of the land, and its ability to withstand the water pressure that its natural perimeters would have to sustain. Unfortunately the shock waves from the charges detonated from time to time hit our home with much force, not once but many times. Each time a blast went off, our windows shook and rattled.

Dad and I contacted the Army Corps of Engineers to report the damage that had been done, and was still happening. Soon we began to notice wide cracks in our basement wall through which we could see daylight. Our floors sank away from the baseboard molding, cracks appeared in the plaster walls of each room, and the tile floor in the main bathroom contained many cracks. We were very upset to see our home falling apart in front of our very eyes.

The Army Engineers replied that they would refer the matter to Doral for further review. After a long two-week wait, two Doral representatives finally arrived to inspect the house. We observed that both men were astonished to see the extent of the damages, but were cautiously mum about making any statements concerning liability. They offered no promise or hope of compensation. After waiting two more weeks with no response from the Engineers or Doral, Dad hired a lawyer to sue for the damages.

Prior to this, Dad had been advised to have our house appraised, so that we would be better informed when the time arrived to negotiate a sale. The appraisal value in 1971 was $51,000.

Our case finally came up in the courthouse in Stroudsburg. We were ecstatic to hear that we had won the case, but our joy was soon shattered when we learned that Doral had filed for bankruptcy and was unable to pay. We were devastated; not only were we denied compensation to which we were entitled, but we had to pay the lawyer fees as well.

Meanwhile, while negotiations continued with many of the property owners in the valley, the area was being inundated with squatters. They took over and lived in the many condemned houses, as soon as they became vacated. The squatters were a breed to themselves, with an identity all their own. They were unkempt in their attire and sustained themselves on welfare checks, food stamps and drugs. Some were known to carry guns, and all of them were antisocial and definitely anti-establishment. The grounds of the houses they occupied were littered with broken-down cars and piles of junk. The injustice was that they were living in these houses rent-free. They blatantly defaced the beautiful land that they illegally occupied, and showed no remorse for any of their actions.

Months after our court case was over, the appraiser for the government came to negotiate a price. We hoped that the price would be high enough so that we would be able to build another house for ourselves. I remember that day vividly. Dad and I greeted the appraiser warmly. He came well equipped with the usual paraphernalia briefcase, papers, printed requisites, etc. We exchanged friendly talk in preparation for the negotiations. When we were offered $23,500 I thought Dad would collapse on the spot. His face stiffened in anger, and yet he was in complete control. He told the appraiser in no uncertain terms that this was absolutely unacceptable, that we were being treated shabbily and unfairly, and that we would accept this price only under protest.

The appraiser felt very uneasy, yet he agreed that we had every right to contest the price. He hurriedly said goodbye and was gone.

The irony of all this is that the government appraised our home as damaged property. Yet, we were never compensated for those damages, which had been caused by work ordered by them in the first place. It was a Catch 22 situation. This whole affair understandably caused Dad a great deal of anguish and heartache. After all, he had put so much of himself into the construction of our home. Not only did we have to leave, we were being given a shabby amount of money for it. Of course no price, no matter how high, could ever justly compensate us for the labor of love that made it the home it was to all of us.

With little choice, we settled with the U.S. Government on their offered price of $23,000, under the condition of protest and further arbitration. Sadly, by the time our first mortgage was satisfied, there was a meager sum of $11,000 remaining to us hardly enough to purchase another home, at least right away.

By this time, Dad was forced to retire from tile work because of his health. Even though he was only 61 years old, he became eligible for total disability benefits under the Social Security program. Fortunately Aunt Martha encouraged Dad to develop and supervise the trailer park on Route 447. She had always relied on Dads good business judgement and experience. This would give Dad something to do that would not be too strenuous. Also he would have little time to worry about his health.

Martha also invited Dad and me and Josie to become partners with her in this venture. We gladly accepted, and accordingly contributed our share of money to help pay for the many things that had to be completed for approval by the Environmental department and the East Stroudsburg Zoning Board. The requisites included a septic system, a safe water system, electric service, paved or graveled roadways, etc.

Josie planned and eventually did move her house to a lovely spot of ground that she had selected. As for us, we made plans to buy a new furnished mobile home and after doing so, placed it on a designated lot as shown in the developed park plan, alongside the others.

But before dealing with the plans to move, Dad’s thoughts were focused on my graduation from college which was scheduled to take place in early May. Prior to my graduation, I had an interview and was accepted for a fourth grade teaching position in Hope, New Jersey. However, I refused the position, as Dad had suffered the same problems of heart and emphysema requiring another emergency admission, this time in late March. In my mind, I could not comfortably entertain the thought of being in a classroom, miles away from him, and always worrying that he would be alone should he suffer another attack. Of course, Dad was deeply disappointed learning of my decision, as he realized how long and hard I had worked for such on opportunity. However, I appeased him and assured him that whenever possible, I would substitute, which made him feel a bit better. As it turned out I did substitute for two and a half years before finally getting my permanent position a few years later.

Graduation day for me had finally arrived! Our entire family was on hand to witness the big event. How proud they all were to see Mom getting a diploma after a 37 year interval since high school graduation. It became necessary for Dad to beg for more invitations as the number of Pappalardos in attendance exceeded the amount of tickets each graduate was allotted. It was a beautiful and memorable occasion, and as my name was called and I was handed my diploma, I could not believe that this was actually happening to me.

Due to Dad’s poor health, we were not able to vacate our premises in Shawnee in May as we were required to do. The Army Corps of Engineers gives property owners a time limit of one year to move and strictly enforces it. With a doctor’s certificate for a valid postponement to move, we extended our stay another two months, but we were required to pay rent for those two months of our extended stay!!!. How ironic–our having now to pay rent for a house that was once ours for over 21 years, in contrast to the squatters who were living in homes they did not own, rent free, for two years and more, with no demands made on them to pay a dime.

By July, our move had been completed. Josie seemed to be quite satisfied with her move, as she was still in her same house, except in a different location. But poor Dad looked drained and dejected with the change that was forced upon us. I can vividly remember his comments as we walked into our trailer for the first time after our move. He looked around taking note of the abbreviated floor plan, and no doubt was mentally comparing it with our 51 foot ranch home we had just vacated. Still standing and still looking, he quietly said, “So now we’ve been reduced to a shoe box.” I shall never forget those words. They were coming from a man who had labored long and hard and now, somehow all that he had labored for was taken from him. His words said it all.

But thanks to God and our six children, in a very short time a beautiful, large attached and enclosed porch with heat was built and added to the side of our trailer. This new addition was a big improvement both cosmetically and spaciously and as weak as Dad was feeling at the time, he proudly supervised the entire project, and with much pleasure and gratitude, watched our six children carrying out his orders as they were busy building this new addition for us, but for Dad mostly.

After its completion, the porch was well used by all of us. Part of it became our son Frank’s bedroom, and for the most part we sat and ate there, including our annual Thanksgiving dinners with Johnny and Marie. Dad, too, seemed to be on the porch most of the time, sitting in his birthday rocking chair, and watching the beautiful birds that were always nesting in the many trees near the trailer. He always had the bird book on hand to identify the rare birds that appeared from time to time.

Despite the positive adjustments that we all made while living in the trailer, Dad with his tendencies toward dry humor, identified our new home with glued lettering pasted on the front of our trailer with the words “Half a House”. It was definitely an expression of his inner emotions and feelings subtly masked with his touch of humor.

While living in our trailer, Peter was attending Juniata College, having graduated from high school in 1971. Paul was at ESU, and Frank was attending Notre Dame High School. When they were all home at the same time, together with their friends, it seemed like the walls were bulging at the seams, but it was good having them all together regardless.

Josie continued to have suppers with us as she had done in Shawnee. She continued to feel content being near us and enjoying the liveliness and activities of our children. I did a good amount of substituting in the East Stroudsburg School District and sometimes in the nearby Blairstown School District in New Jersey, which gratified Dad very much. It made him feel that the diploma I had earned was beginning to pay me back.

We continued to have a good share of company, although not too many at one time, due to lack of space to sleep. We did have a pull out sofa bed in our living room.

Dad kept fairly busy supervising the needs of the tenants in the trailer park which he seemed to enjoy. This worked out well as his responsibilities did not require any physical demands on his part; it was strictly supervisory. He felt good about being active, for as long as his health would allow.

As time went on, Dad continued to suffer the same heart problems requiring the usual emergency care and hospital confinement. During our stay in the trailer, he had four such sessions, all of which weakened him more and more as time went on. It increased the need for all of us to be with him at all times.

Somewhere during this time frame, we had learned from Jean that she and John had separated for good. Apparently, tensions and differences had escalated. She telephoned us from the west coast where she and our grandson John had joined the Krishna group there. She also assured us that they were both okay and we should not worry.

It is my strong belief that Jean no longer wanted us to be around the turmoil that she and John had been experiencing, and that making this move would eliminate our being exposed to these problems. She realized, too, that Dad’s health was very fragile, and he was not physically able to cope with these upsetting situations. Of course, Dad and I were apprehensive about the new setting Jean had just become involved with, but we were relieved to know that she and our grandson were safe and warm. We reassured her, as always, that our home was always open to both her and our grandson should things not work out for them.

With Dad’s heath deteriorating steadily, we followed Freddie’s suggestion to try Florida in the hopes that such a move would improve his health. We rented a very nice 2 bedroom apartment, furnished, in Dunedin. It was located close to Clearwater where Freddie and Mary lived. My sister Rose lived in Holiday, about 15 miles from us. Josie and Frank accompanied us, and we arranged to have Frank attend high school in Dunedin while there. We adjusted to Florida fairly well, except for the high heat and humidity at certain times. Freddie and Mary visited us quite often, and we likewise would visit there as well. My sister Rose and husband Tony, did not come as often, as the distance and heavy traffic discouraged them from driving.

While still in Dunedin, Dad was admitted to Mease Hospital twice more for emergency care and the usual ten day hospital confinement. By this time, we were beginning to feel the need to go back home and to be near Dad’s doctors, and most of all, to be near our family. We returned home by mid-June.

Upon our arrival home, we were swamped with lots of visits from both the Vecchios and the Pappalardos. In a sense, I think everybody realized that Dad was living on borrowed time and all of them wanted the opportunity to see him as much and as often as possible before the end came.

The last five years of Dad’s life were spent in and out of the hospital, with a total of nine emergency heart spells. Each time he was discharged, he always bounced back and was strengthened by the expert medical care he received from his qualified doctors, but most of all by the attention and encouragement and care he always received from all of us.

The ninth and final emergency heart spell happened in early November. On November 12, 1974, around 2 AM, Dad left us. Sal John was with him to the end. The doctor had sent Paul and me home around 12:30, as he could see we were very tired and in need of rest.

Dad’s death left us all in shock, even though we were well aware of the seriousness of his condition and had prepared ourselves in a way for the inevitable for some time now. Concerning his funeral, I felt I was not emotionally able to deal with the large number of friends Dad and I both had who would be appearing at the viewing to pay their last respects. I felt that it would be more than I could handle. The tensions of Dad’s illness right up to the end left me exhausted. After discussions with the family, I decided there would be no viewing except for family members. It worked out well for everybody concerned. After the mass and burial, we all met at Sal and Joanne’s where refreshments were served to everybody in attendance. Death is always tragic, but having your family at your side provides the comfort we all need at such a time.

I knew that as a widow, and a mother and a grandmother, I had to be strong, with the hopes that I could give strength and support to all of my loved ones. I did not want to worry them or burden them in any way. We were all trying our best to deal with the grief we were experiencing.

I was particularly concerned about Frank, who had just turned 17 and who was now a senior in high school. He had already been awarded a four year scholarship to Temple University, beginning with the 1975 school term. With such a wonderful opportunity ahead of him, I did not want him to postpone or cancel his plans. With the same thoughts in mind, I did not want Peter to interrupt his education either. He was still attending Juniata and had plans to obtain his master’s degree at Duke University. Paul at this particular time was working at the Pocono Hospital as an aide.

With much thought and deliberation concerning this situation, I decided I would arrange to have a dinner at the restaurant which Dad and I were fond of – the Beaver House in Stroudsburg. Whenever Dad and I were able to get an evening alone together, this is where we would go, to enjoy succulent lobster dinners. This dinner would be for our six children, their spouses and/or escorts, since our three youngest were still unmarried. My objective was to give reassurance and comfort to all our family.

There were ten of us (Jean was in California), plus Josie and myself. We were seated in a private room all to ourselves, which I had arranged with the Michaels, the owners of the restaurant. Wanting to assume and to reflect confidence and responsibility at this important time in our lives, I sat at the head of the table.

After greeting and toasting one another with our drinks in hand, I announced that I had two special comments to make. “First,” I said to each of them,”I just want you all to know that I do not want you to feel sorry for me. As long as I know, in the event I do need you, that you will be as close and as available to me as you are right now, then there is no need to worry about me or to offer me sympathy”. I emphasized the message with sweeping gestures of my hands and arms, projecting friendly and warm authority over my flock!

“Secondly,” I continued, while particularly looking at Frank, and softly banging my hand on the table as though I were calling a meeting to order, “I also want you to understand that I am still at the helm, and more than able to be in charge”. To see Frank smile at that very moment gave me much pleasure, and much relief as well. I felt very reassured that my timely statements at this very important occasion made them feel that I truly was strong and very much in control, and they really had no need to worry about their mother. This very first special family dinner became a precedent and continued once a year, usually near Mother’s Day, for 14 consecutive years. It was interrupted when I went to Florida in 1988 to assist my sister and live in her house during her confinement with Alzheimer’s disease. This involved a five year period during which time she died.

After we all left to go home following our special dinner that particular evening, I knew and felt that as family, we would survive through this time of loss and grief, and that Dad would have been as proud as I was, to witness the unity and the love that we all shared that night, and still continues to the present day.

After Dad’s death, I continued to substitute and managed to handle the responsibilities of the trailer park as well as keeping a watchful eye on Josie. She was a young 85 years old, but we were always concerned as she was all alone a good part of the day as well as at night. She kept herself active managing the upkeep of her little home, and particularly enjoyed doing laundry for herself. I would pick her up to go to the stores to food shop at least once a week. She did not require very much in the line of food, as she only had to plan on breakfast and lunch. She continued to come to our house for supper as per our orders ever since Grandpa died. She looked forward to being with all of us, and yet, it was always convenient for her to have a house to run back to, if ever the noise level at our house became overbearing. We always kidded her those few times that she made an early exit, telling her that she was anti-social and she didn’t love us anymore. Of course, this always brought a smile on her face. Each night, she was always escorted to her home by one of our boys, which made her feel secure, especially during the short days of winter with its early nights of darkness. In addition, Josie continued to spend her winters in Florida, as she had been doing for years with Grandpa. Dad’s brother, Frank, always arranged to take her to Kennedy Airport for her departure, and was on hand to meet her there on her return. Frank was always very accommodating and was ready to assist Josie in any way he could. Frank and Phyllis, whom he later married, came to the Poconos very often to visit with us. They always enjoyed visiting with us and all our kids and grandchildren, and we always looked forward to their visits whenever they came.

Upon the recommendation of Rosemary McMahon (whom I knew ever since my days at the lab school while I was student teaching) I went to check on my files at the college placement office. As Rosemary explained to me, it was very important to check and make sure that papers pertaining to the student teaching were complete and in order. It is from these files that interested school administrators obtain the necessary information concerning the applicants in question. It was a great suggestion, because in looking over my file, I discovered that Ann Scrak, who was my co-op teacher the second half of the school year, had neglected to complete her report on my achievements, and recommendations, if any. When I contacted Ann, she apologized deeply for the oversight, and promised it would be completed by the next day, and it was. Both co-op teachers had given me glowing reports, and I had received an A grade from both of them. In addition, Rosemary volunteered to write up a wonderful letter of recommendation on my behalf. She had observed various things I had worked on with my students while I did my student teaching. She was particularly impressed with one unit I had prepared for my fourth graders concerning the Four Seasons. I prepared and wrote a suitable program including the music, and Rosemary’s kindergarten class were among our guests, watching the whole thing. It went over big, which made our students feel proud that their performance was successful. I knew, from my very first day of teaching, that learning can be fun, that teachers need to discipline and inspire their students with creativity and knowledge, and that students in turn will participate and respond with curiosity and interest of discussion, as they learn.

By good fortune, a vacancy for a 5th grade teacher in the Pleasant Valley school district became available. I applied, was interviewed, and was hired! (If only Dad were around to see it all happen.) I learned later on that interviews had gone on for two weeks, with interested applicants in the 20+ age group applying for the position. I was amazed that I was hired, after learning that I was the last applicant to be interviewed, and that I would be starting my teaching career at the age of 58!! As the saying goes, “It’s never too late”.

This position was a big boost for me, as our finances had been far from adequate ever since Dad was put on total disability. In addition, Dad’s hospital confinements with the added expense of private rooms plus medication each time he was admitted to the hospital added to our financial burdens.

As a widow after Dad’s death, I did not qualify to receive a widow’s pension as I was too young (57 years old). I did manage, however, to apply to the Veterans Administration for assistance for Peter and Frank. After the proper papers were filed, they were eligible to receive and did receive a monthly stipend for as long as they attended college. Regardless of the amount, it was good to count on receiving a check in the mail each month.

I began my permanent teaching career at the end of November. It was a challenge, as it is for all beginning teachers. But little by little, as time passed, the necessary adjustments were made, and soon the day’s schedule went smoothly and the children were responding very well.

I had a daily commute back and forth from the trailer park to the school in Brodheadsville which took about 25 to 30 minutes depending upon road conditions and weather. I began to feel the pinch, as I wanted to give Josie as much time as I could. In addition, there were the responsibilities of running the park, as well as managing the house, my job, our family, etc.

While all of this was going on, Martha felt that this was all too much for me, and she felt, too, that perhaps it would be wise for a real estate person to manage it for us, or else, to sell it. As per her suggestion, I arranged with Ted Kirk, Dad’s friend in real estate, to take over the management of the park (for a fee, of course). In the meantime, after discussing it with Josie, I decided to move and locate nearer to the school where I taught. We were fortunate in finding and renting a lovely split level home in Gilbert, PA, which was large enough to accommodate our three boys, as well as Josie and myself. After living in the trailer the past five years, it was wonderful to have lots of space once again. The house was only four miles away from the school were I taught. We proceeded to move in August, which was in plenty of time before the new school year was about to begin.

Events continued to happen. Ted Kirk informed us he was able to find a buyer for the trailer park, which meant that now there would be no need to have a management agent to run the park. Martha, Josie and I discussed the matter very carefully in great detail. In a week, we finally made the decision to finalize the contract of sale. The terms consisted of a very small down payment, and the balance would be held by the three of us as a first mortgage. This would provide each of us with a comfortable monthly income. Martha, being the partner with the most money invested, received the largest share, and Josie and I received equal shares but a smaller amount. All three of us were pleased with the outcome. Martha thanked me for taking care of the responsibilities of the park which had become necessary after Dad passed away. I was glad that I was able to do it, and enjoyed the experience of the challenges which came up from time to time.

With the move behind us, all of us were ready to adjust to our new home, our new surroundings, and our new neighbors as well. We were also ready and waiting for visits from all our family–the Vecchios and the Pappalardos–to spend some time with us in the beautiful surroundings of the West End as it is often referred to. They did come and took notice of our new surroundings. They commented that it resembled the Shawnee valley where we once lived but there was something missing–the Delaware River.

Mary E. Pappalardo (1917-2021)

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